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Funeral For A Friend

Posted: January 20, 2013 in Friends, Life, Music
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I knew there would be a big crowd. How could there not be? For the past two days you had been the talk of the town. Your web of influence stretched for miles. So when I saw the crowd I wasn’t surprised. The place was still and quiet. While people were moving, and chatting amongst themselves; you could still here the drop of a pin.
The decor was fitting. Your guitars, cowboy hat and boots, plus the arrangement of flowers. They were reminders that this wasn’t a dream. While it was still a nightmare, it was in fact real. I knew it was real. I was there in my Sunday’s finest. Our friend’s were with me looking their best as well. All of us plus your family in one building to see you but you weren’t there. I hoped at some point you would arrive with a grin on your face and to everyone’s surprise your would say, “Gotcha. I just wanted everyone to get together again.” Unfortunately, that didn’t happen.
Instead, the idea of this all being a dream or crazy misunderstanding ended for me when your lovely wife entered. It was then I knew that this nightmare was reality. Her tears could be heard across the sanctuary. She had the tears of a young widow.
Your service was heart breaking but it was lovely. I was most comforted in the words of your Uncle-in-law. While every man who spoke did so from his heart; I found that he was the most relatable. Your band also helped bring comfort to me. And I admired them for being able to perform while also in morning. That is talent.
The service concluded and a combination of your family and friends made their way to one of the many places that you had entertained at. In fact, I had just seen you there back in October for a Halloween party. I’m glad I made it that night. There we talked, laughed, remembered and cried. And one by one your family arrived.
Your lovely wife was the first. Still pouring out the tears she had for the man she loved and who had loved her back. Any time I ran into you and her I could always see that you two were perfect together. I had never met your parents but I knew them when I saw them. Your mother seemed to comfort those who hugged her just as much as she herself was being comforted. I got stuck in one spot for a while due to the crowd and I was right near your father. I can never comprehend the pain he was feeling because I have no son to lose. But I could feel the pain radiating from him and it made tears run from my eyes.
The night went on and I was able to catch up with some of our mutual friends. Some I had seen a few weeks ago, others I hadn’t seen in years. I was reminded of some good memories that I had forgotten and even some old emotions were brought back to the surface. I was only part of a small piece of your web, but that piece included a lot of people with a lot of memories.
At one point I decided that the Blue Moon wasn’t satisfying my need to drown my sorrows. So I made a switch to a Jack on the rocks. When my drink arrived a complete stranger and I made a toast to you. Neither of us spoke, we just clinked our cups together with a sad look in our eyes and hated that you weren’t there to join us.
Eventually the wake drew to a close. The night’s band had arrived and it was time for new patrons to come in. I passed your brother on my way out. All I could say was that you were a good man and that I was sorry. No words I had could comfort him, but I had to say something.
I’m going to miss you AJ. You were a great friend. I was hoping to see you in September at the Lake Tanglewood Triathlon. I had seen you there the past two years with the Last Train Home. This year and the following years won’t be the same. I’ll miss your tweets on twitter, your post and videos on Facebook, and more music from you on iTunes. But most of all, I’ll miss running into around town. Farewell my old friend. I’ll see you in the future.

AJ Swope & The Last Train Home